The wake up call & the darjeeling tea
12 Apr 2009 17 Comments
in Journey called Life Tags: darjeeling tea, life, love, my childhood
My morning tea
Ma : uther paro taratari,prochur deri hoye jachchhhe,bhalo meye ra bhor 7 ta obdhi ghumoy na
(Get up soon,you are already late,no good girl sleeps till 7 in the morning)
Me : Please ma,deko na ,please,kal anek khon obdhi porechhi
(Please ma,dont ask me to get up,last night I studied for a long time )
Ma : toh? dekh to pasher barir chotto meye ta 5 ta theke gaan practice korchhe..tui ar kono din bhalo meye holi na
( So what ? See, that small girl of our neighbour is practicing singing since 5 in the morning..you never can be a good girl )
Me : Please, ar tulona pele na,,aamar higher seconadry-r anko karar sathe tumi oi fail kara meye tar gaan-er tulona korle..
( Please, you even didnt find any better person to compare with me, you compared my +12 maths with her stupid singing..)
Ma : Ar ki? sei to haari-y thelte habe..se jato daktar- engineeri hao na kano..ei rakom 7/8 ta obdhi ghumole kono chhele biye korbe toke?shashuri mardhor korbe..
(So what? You have to cook even after you become an engineer or doctor .If you sleep till 7/8 AM ,then which guy will marry you? After marriage, you will get thrashing from your mother-in-law )
Me ,neglecting her sentences,starts searching for another blanket..Who wants to see an early morning Sun ?
And then my mother like an angel gives the second trial :
Ma : Oth na..cha thanda hoye galo
( Get up …Tea is getting colder )
Me : Cha, tumi cha korechho..
( You have made tea for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!)…and then suddenly this girl forgets all her morning dreams,nice romantic sleep & gets up…goes to brush her teeth before her favorite morning tea gets cold…..
Ek Garam chai ki pyaali ho………….
I love my morning tea..a cup of hot darjeeling tea without milk & a little sugar –and I feel a good start is happening..oho….Till 12th standard I was not allowed to join the tea party at home,we bengalis are tea lovers ( well we bengalis are the most health conscious !),and in every bengali family a morning does not start without hot tea..darjeeling tea,assam tea, tea without milk,tea with milk malai- Tea comes with so many varities..but children are never ever allowed to taste the great drink..My mom used to say ” No No..not before your wedding,your complexion will look dull”..and I almost knowing that wedding was sooooooooo far,used to cry “When?When? When will you give me a cup of tea?”..(My mom never knew that I already tasted tea without her permission -where??During summer vacation, at my grand ma’s place..She never told anything about the complexion though,,thats why She was/is my favorite!)
I am a late riser person..I love the morning sleep,and I love darjeeling tea too..after 12th ,I think my two loves used to fight with each other every single day–some times Tea won,some times my sleep…..
Days passed,and then I moved to my first job location,where mom was not there to give me a wake up call with my favorite darjeeling tea.For couple of months I used to miss three of them – my mom,morning sleep & morning tea.There everyone was coffee lover, and I ,a coffee hater ( who can give you thousand bad comments against coffee) used to miss my loves. On one sunday, there was no one to give me company in breakfast table.I was alone that day.I thought about my loves again , It was 9 AM in the morning,a hot summer day started with bright sunlight ..I was actually missing something-lemonade or sprite?..No,being alone most of the times can build the best confidence! I went out , and after searching for 2 hours in different shopping malls,I found a lipton darjeeling tea box worth Rs 100 .I came back with a joy..I made my morning tea at 1 PM that day,I had that alone..and promised to myself that I would never ever keep any of my loved things or loved ones away from me.That was a wonderful restart of my life..When we are away from home, we normally ignore things which we love most and that too for no great reasons, and that missing gap actually makes us weaker !
It was a wake up call for me that day..After that I never missed my cup of darjeeling tea..
And the most cherished experience was when at home I prepared tea ( we call it “bed tea” ,and it tastes the best if you have it before brushing your teeth) for my mom and we had it together at 5:30 in the morning ,Yes most of the times we discuss important things in the early morning ,while feeling fresh with a cup of darjeeling tea..that aroma & taste never let us sleep in life !
Memory & Fogetfulness
12 Apr 2009 4 Comments
in independent category, Journey called Life Tags: experience, forgetfulness, life
Nowadays I understand that I am growing older & the death bed is not too far… We women are beauty conscious, so even we get scared of the thinning hair over the forehead, or somewhat much aged face of ours ,some time a stressed knee pain or even a small pimple on our face can scare us( I think that’s why Olay products are so famous!)I never gave much attention to those silly things ..These days another very very difficult problem is interfering here by its frequent presence–I am forgetting things all of a sudden.
In December when I watched ghajini with my college friends , that time aamir’s short term memory loss did not generate any kind of excitement in me, after the movie I just wanted to forget that irritating asin’s ‘kaareen -kappor -se- copied -nakhra ‘( Nakhra suits only on kareena ,because you cant even imagine a Kareena Kapoor without any ‘nakhra’ ) and aamir’s eight-packed-muscle-giving -all ‘jhatka’ to villains ,and Yes I forgot ghajini ,the movie stopped haunting us and even we forgot that we spent Rs 350 for that one show.The only thing which we all remembered about the movie was the laughter which we had at the same time when the greatest villain in the world was saying “TU SHOOORT MEMORY LOOOSS,TU MUJHE MAREGA ?”, well that should have been the best dialog of the year 2009 bollywood movies…(and of course ghajini,the best comedy picture, because none of my friends including me cried while watching it!)
I was always famous for my “short term memory gain “..Yes I hardly forget any insult /or bad words or harsh comments. Those things (and I don’t know why ) hide some where in side, and all of a sudden ,they appear and make me sad or inspire me to have a desire for retaliation.J ..So I myself was proud of this rare god gifted skill.
Things started changing from this January..Oneday I started thinking about an office work for which I designed one solution in 2006,I tried my best to remember it ,and it took two days to remember that solution. After that incident I forgot a restaurant name ,I think almost for a year I used to visit that restaurant for breakfast regularly. Soon after that regularly I kept watching how many things were getting disappeared from my memory–the birthdays(which I never used to forget earlier) ,having food at right time, friends’ names, favorite shopping destination names,even sometimes my work also! The most pathetic problem was forgetting keys while moving out of home! I thought I got some serious disease or so..but No..it was not Alzheimer’s Disease
J!
When I became a bit serious about this,I was told that these all actions are nothing but absent mindedness.
Well I am happy now with this . The reason behind this problem is -nowadays life is very stressful, we get thousand things to remember, the passwords,the user ids,four five email ids,bank information,and with that manager’s order or client requirement and even your mom’s small issue,dad’s health. So even when we have a sharp memory .but not giving much attention to everything can cause an absent mind,where you forget silly things & repent later.
Its always advised to have a disciplined life, work should be planned as per the priority. You will never forget your key if you keep that in a particular place, you will never forget an appointment if you place that in your diary. And when your mom/dad are calling you for an urgent & important discussion, don’t do your office work while listening to them, concentrate only into one thing at a particular time ,believe me you will never ever forget things after this!
And more over never think that if you are forgetting then aamir’s style ( writing on body) will help you ever! JJPeople can laugh out like mad if they see you copying that style (like we did while seeing ghajni)
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