Journey Called Life ….

The biggest Fear…..

18 Nov 2010 1 Comment

by Archita in Journey called Life

Anything which I need to take care alone makes me bored & a little anxious too. I am a good team player!

We had a lovely discussion yesterday; our topic of discussion was “Biggest fear in life”. Everyone had their share of thoughts; some are scared of their in-laws, some are scared of their shopaholic nature; one person is scared of his wife too; when it came to me , though normally I take time to open up , but could not stop sharing it :- my biggest fear is “getting hurt” and that too with an extra if condition , if I am honest and everyone knows that , but too obsessed with their hurting skills.

I thought why I should not start my blogging once again with this topic: The biggest fear.

Asked by friends, why “Getting hurt” so much means to you ; I went down to my memory lane; the entire audience was silent while I started speaking.

“Getting hurt is a lonely journey ; when you are hurt , you cant share it , as just like “getting hurt “ is not in your control , and by sharing with people you don’t have control in the reaction either. The healing process needs to be done by you only ; you are the doctor , you are the patient ; and the medicine is again “forgiveness”- the commonly used positive term which looks good in Deepak Chopra’s books /in spiritual guru’s vachans ; but while practicing it you know you have to go above the humane limit .At times you cant forgive & move on , the wound becomes a part of your life just like a tumor ; then “time” comes to help you taking its own time; though time heals everything , but you are the sole sufferer till a certain point of time! Strange but true!

The wound gets bigger if you know you didn’t do anything wrong ; but you are punished because you are ahead of time ; or in other language they are behind the time!

And wound is even bigger when you just cant control the limit of decency( drawn by you only) to attack the person who hurt you ; at times it is the Indian culture which teaches you to respect elders ( no matter if they fail in the eligibility criteria!) ; at times it’s the hard earned money which you may loose if you hurt back ; at times you just don’t want to drag it further!

In my journey , I have seen that parents only have that hidden magical medicine to cure your wound in a minute; may be it’s a nature gifted quality; but what will you do if the hurt cant be shared with the parents because you know some wounds are infectious and you don’t want your parents to carry it forward? “

It was altogether a lovely discussion ; and in any life related discussion I go on & on..till you get bored..:)))