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Crunchy numbers

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 7,500 times in 2010. That’s about 18 full 747s.

In 2010, there were 4 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 27 posts. There were 13 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 855kb. That’s about a picture per month.

The busiest day of the year was March 23rd with 134 views. The most popular post that day was About.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, google.com, search.aol.com, 74.125.67.100, and orkut.co.in.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for india, sad quotes about life, india pictures, darjeeling tea, and pictures of india.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

About April 2009

The wake up call & the darjeeling tea April 2009
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TUM JIO HAZARON SAAL- Happy Birthday.. April 2009
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The biggest Fear….. November 2010

Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live June 2009
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With the growth of social networking, we have become more social nowadays; we try to avoid meeting people on a friend’s wedding day ; but on social networking site we send lots of sad smileys to express the sorrow. We don’t talk to our cubicle mate; but we have 500 people posting daily statuses on internet; We have divided the life into two parts: offline life & online life…

After 16 years of education & 6 years of work life , I am left with very few friends & a heavy memory book . On social networking I have fewer friends ( send/accept invitation to/from people who mean to me, or who really is/was a friend) . I tried to understand this social networking from a friend of mine who use the site for putting not-so-honest status messages ; his friend list has more number of people whom he hasn’t met only. Yeh kaisi dosti bhai?

Friendship to me is still a bond between two or three ; where one understands ( at least try to!) each other ;have many common good or bad memories , and share a good  bond of understanding ,trust, likes & dislikes . And at least for me it never started without meeting each other (!!). How can you call a person a “friend” when you don’t know the most prominent & easily discoverable thing- how he/she looks! ~

In friendship quantity hardly matters ; its so childish to see someone’s status everyday when you don’t know 90% of his qualities? Social bonding happens only after you login to your laptop ; that too most of your friends do it for “networking” ;” You really do not know when you will need him ; so Its better to keep him in the friendlist “– something really difficult-to-understand thing; you don’t go to meet your school friend in the same city anymore , but you click on the images of a colleague who is posting snaps from USA . You forget to wish your best friend on her wedding day though it is in the same city; but don’t forget to wish your friend on her birthday , thanks to the birthday reminder on the social site.

Should not we be more choosy to when we know which Q is precious in life…! If the quantity showing in the list has surely deserved the same quality then life becomes less mechanical!

Feminists stand up for equality ; Men and women are equal ; Men support women in life ; We clap for Indra Nooyi ; often your cousins call you up when they watch some successful women’s life story on TV ; They remember you as a career woman , often people get shocked to see your strong headed decisions ; Back home you learn to be informed that five of your relatives are meeting you for dinner & kitchen is empty ;at the same time boss informs you that you have a presentation at 7 AM sharp the next day . You end up fighting with your husband; Feminists stand up & suggest you to ask for equality ; and you still wonder “Whom to ask???”..

My office starts quite early everyday; we take a coffee break at 11. This has been happening for quite a few years ; at times some guys also join us for coffee. I normally avoid any discussion with new people in life because most of the times I have seen I think very differently, I always have a clear picture about my future & life ; and you know being straightforward never gives you the typicial bollywoon kinda Sooraj Barjatya heroind image. But believe me ,it creates lots of issue in professional life if the women the guys interact are well informed and also with better knowledge than the male counterparts. While having coffee with my other female colleague , I always try to divert the discussion to somewhat healthy things ; even if its movies , I really do not mind as long as it is informative & far from saas-bahu issues. But who really cares? Most of the coffee time goes into the discussion of the negligence of the husband , the sufferings as a mother , the work load put by her manager etc etc & I keep getting surprised why women being so independent still think about “negligence”!

While the entire coffee break goes on & I try to tell people one thing : Women cant rise until you remove the mindset of “getting support “ , “ having tears “ ; Why feminists call themselves self-dependent & then ask for equality? Why do you have to ask it when you can make yourself equal to anyone else?

I know it is very complicated ; the dream of flying high in career and the pressure of proving yourself as the best mother , or the battle to win the crown of “the best wife “! I would say everything depends on how you perform and how well-spoken you are. I have seen friends who wear a double faced masks , who at home try to please their in-laws & husbands & start bitching once they leave home & enter office ! Good & healthy married life is just like winning a jackpot; if you have a husband who is not “out of the world “ why don’t you use your common language to discuss the matter ? Instead of asking for equalities, why don’t both of you work equally, earn equally & think equally?

Assertiveness is the skill which every human being should have. You should know to say No or Yes at the right time. For example, I was discussing about overseas travel with a male friend of mine; He told me how much he loves his family & cant stay away from them , at the same time I knew he tried his best to settle down in overseas but he was not competent ; Now there is no point of disagreeing more because I knew he was lying ; I did  not protest to what said ( though I really wanted to ! to give him back proper reply!) Sometimes you have the elders to give you suggestion from their experience; and you know that demotivates you ; you really should learn to say “No” to them if you think what they think are not rational . Our Indian culture teaches us not to fight with elders; But believe me rather hurting yourself, a polite “No” is in no way harmful. You just really don’t need to fight to say “NO”. One known person , a few years senior to me told me how good it is to stay away from foreign goods ( he learnt it from a very popular ,media attention seeking Guru -ji) ; and in no second I protested  : “ Why do you have to discuss all those rubbish when we stay in the age of globalization ? You started your career in a MNC & you still work there. Your entire salary comes from some ledger of a foreign country which runs the business with foreign currency; why don’t you quit & sit at home? “ Don’t you think I did the right thing at the right time?

Male or female ; in career you get to see many types of people , each think differently , express in different way . But nothing should stop you from your goal. Nothing really matters as long as you know you are not harming anyone! And stop asking for anything, you can do anything by yourself!

Often in career, you get to see people who never went to co-ed schools , who were taught by elders not to talk to girls ; These people will never talk to you freely & never ever can take you as their superior. I really had tough time to handle them , but take it as experience and any experience makes you richer & more practical. Be straightforward while talking. Its very normal to be soft ( because we women are , isn’t it ? ) , but your softness should not be misused.

I know it’s very hard journey; the career is always challenging; and as women need to see the grocery thing , monitor the maid & cook , welcome the guest. But you should focus more on your goals; you should be creative enough to create your goals and disciplined enough to keep your foot grounded within the boundary; you should be strong enough so that only your motivation becomes sufficient always. And also reading all biographies of successful people helps a lot!..

 So go girls & win the world!

Often I say “ I hate my job …”…more often “ I hate my manager , he is a jerk “..Very frequently “ I hate my life..”; “I hate that person , look at him , he looks like a clown “ ..My best friend says “Hate” is a very hard word, and life itself is soo fragile why one has to hit it with “hard” feelings ? So inspired by him I try to use the mild words “Like”, “dislike “ , “no love “etc !!

I am never religious and also not an atheist ; It irritates me when in pain you curse god –“Why Me god?”…So selfish; when you are gifted with two normal legs , two normal eyes , two normal hands , two normal eyes , did you ask God “Why me God?”..So today’s article is to discuss the word “Hatred “..And before reading my artcle you should be aware of the fact “This is not about “mushy” ”I love you ” & “I hate you” things; I have enough articles about it !”

 The common philosophy is as a day is divided into two portion : with  light & without light ; same way your life is designed into two feelings :love & hate ; Love with bright light ; Hate with black darkness ;We find a handful of people who hates in two different ways ; one : when you have things but you don’t think they are appropriate for you ; you are too ambitious & aim for more ; You know the future is unpredictable but at least being the owner of your present you can love/hate it & plan for your “love” ly future ; two : When you friends / enemies have better things in life , and you like “the grass is greener on the other side” start hating what you have but others don’t have!

I always wondered what gave people the REASON to hate, and possibly I would find what reason they had to love as well. one does not hate another on the basis of static things, since nothing is static with humans. For instance, you would not hate someone because of their hair, but because they had a degenerative quality about them. Degenerative to their attractiveness and moral appearance. Then it MUST be the character in one’s self, but it brings up the question of WHAT form of character. I pondered this and found that, what you hate is the opposite of what you like, thus the opposite of your own traits would be of your loathing. Say, a bank robber is shooting and being shot at by a police officer, ignoring the job aspect and civil duties, both men’s character is why one became a bank robber and the other a policeman. Complete opposites of each other in the job sense as well.
Human beings have equal parts emotion (imagination) and rationality (left brain/right brain). The way we perceive our surroundings and the angle at which we are approaching a problem becomes evident in our decisions. For example: When you ‘give up’ on someone you may have done so for a variety of reasons – ‘they were too much work’, ‘you can’t help those who refuse to help themselves’, ‘if they aren’t willing to put forth any effort, why should I?’ and so on… All of these answers come from a selfish standpoint in some shape form or fashion and that is called “emotion “ ; the way your mind reacts to something –either positive or negative ; but it is the root of all .Emotion creates a perception in us ; perception , the way we see things . Take the robber & police officer example in a Hollywood action movie  & take two people ; the guy loves action movies & the girl is attracted to the emotional side of life ; the guy  loves action ; it gives Adrenaline Rush ,he thanks the police office after the officer shots down the robber ; on the other side the girl feels pathetic ;she curses God “why do you give so much poverty in this world ?Why does a person become so negative & becomes a robber? Why do you give another person the power to kill another ?” The hate & love work in opposite direction here.

There in no order of reaction to “love” & “hate”. There are two different kinds of “hate.” First, we have the irrational hate, which accomplishes nothing and is the result of ignorance. This hate is probably a product of anger and/or frustration. And on the other hand, we have the rational version of hate. When we understand something to be malicious to ourselves, or something essential to us, we tend to hate whatever that element may be. But we hate it for good reason. This hate is the product of love, and usually rational and responsible fear.

I will end this discussion with Mother Teresa ‘s quote “Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand. ” So spread love as much as possible because it is beautiful ; it makes you beautiful and at the same time you beautify someone else by sharing it ‘ and more that anything it is POSITIVE. Anything positive makes you more positive in life ; It makes you rich , famous & a HUMAN BEING ; remember POSITIVE is the brightness , positive is the daylight , positive is your EXISTENCE.

 “Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat. “

Anything which I need to take care alone makes me bored & a little anxious too. I am a good team player!

We had a lovely discussion yesterday; our topic of discussion was “Biggest fear in life”. Everyone had their share of thoughts; some are scared of their in-laws, some are scared of their shopaholic nature; one person is scared of his wife too; when it came to me , though normally I take time to open up , but could not stop sharing it :- my biggest fear is “getting hurt” and that too with an extra if condition , if I am honest and everyone knows that , but too obsessed with their hurting skills.

I thought why I should not start my blogging once again with this topic: The biggest fear.

Asked by friends, why “Getting hurt” so much means to you ; I went down to my memory lane; the entire audience was silent while I started speaking.

“Getting hurt is a lonely journey ; when you are hurt , you cant share it , as just like “getting hurt “ is not in your control , and by sharing with people you don’t have control in the reaction either. The healing process needs to be done by you only ; you are the doctor , you are the patient ; and the medicine is again “forgiveness”- the commonly used positive term which looks good in Deepak Chopra’s books /in spiritual guru’s vachans ; but while practicing it you know you have to go above the humane limit .At times you cant forgive & move on , the wound becomes a part of your life just like a tumor ; then “time” comes to help you taking its own time; though time heals everything , but you are the sole sufferer till a certain point of time! Strange but true!

The wound gets bigger if you know you didn’t do anything wrong ; but you are punished because you are ahead of time ; or in other language they are behind the time!

And wound is even bigger when you just cant control the limit of decency( drawn by you only) to attack the person who hurt you ; at times it is the Indian culture which teaches you to respect elders ( no matter if they fail in the eligibility criteria!) ; at times it’s the hard earned money which you may loose if you hurt back ; at times you just don’t want to drag it further!

In my journey , I have seen that parents only have that hidden magical medicine to cure your wound in a minute; may be it’s a nature gifted quality; but what will you do if the hurt cant be shared with the parents because you know some wounds are infectious and you don’t want your parents to carry it forward? “

It was altogether a lovely discussion ; and in any life related discussion I go on & on..till you get bored..:)))

LOVE THE LIFE

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”–

Thats a lovely quote..and see how true it is when we re-read the quote again and again and look back just to find if my attitude got any importance in whatever I did in past,,:)

Well..after a long break I am back to blogging…and so while finding everyone asking me “Did you notice any change in your new life ?” I certainly chose a break to think & talk about it..

Life comes only once..so change is always acceptable if and only if YOU in you are happy to accept the change..:)..

and loved the popular MJ quote about “life”

““If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.”

Life

“In almost everything that touches our everyday life on earth, God is pleased when we’re pleased. He wills that we be as free as birds to soar and sing our maker’s praise without anxiety.”

I love this quote……so much ………

Life is not same everyday…..some day it is so good that we feel why god gave only 24 hrs to end it..some day life is so bad that we wait and pray when the end would come. But whatever life turns , I always love to be the ultimate decision maker for everything I do. It gives me the complete focus and also a whole responsinility to sail it  even in a storm. I am pleased when things are at right direction, otherwise a fight between me & my god starts all of a sudden.

The better days are always welcomed warmly and also stay forever in the memory, so that at any point of our journey of life we can look back and see what we achieved .The worse days are supposed to be forgotten, but for me they are the most precious ones , because they make me stronger , and with their reference I become more bold to face even the worst situation.

Now one off the topic..For a while no nice hindi movies are getting released. Movies on weekends –I think I am watching movies since my engineering days..and those days ( hang outs with friends for a weekend special movie ) are always good….:-)

P.S : A very small blog after many days , I believe.

A wish for you

This blog, yes I am writing in a sad mood…..:-(  

I always write about the happier side of the life, I normally hide all sad emotions ,but today I am again sad…the reason is the same ..the Missing home syndrome is driving me crazy…..I am missing everything of my place because…..

Yes its my one of my best friends’ wedding tomorrow  and I again will miss it.

Earlier also in my blog  I mentioned about the female dominated friend circle of mine who are bonding since the very first day of our college life,and I told this also that it’s a wedding season going on …

I planned a lot to attend her wedding…but could not manage it this time.Tomorrow meri dost dulhan banegi……and I will again call up everyone to know how she is looking today, how the dulha is looking..how are they exchanging the garlands..Godd……In last five years I missed fifty important weddings of my loved ones.

Last year , also I missed my two best friends wedding ( from the same group)…This life is taking us somewhere where we cannot enjoy the present , and are clueless about the future..

I know people who got just one day leave even for their wedding.Career is soo important , but how to control this mind which is full of worthless emotions. I even could not buy a gift for her .

We start earning from an early age, we are focused, we have goal which seems like a mirage …So at the end of everything who is the looser? It’s the “ ME “ inside us.

Anyways……..just before the wedding night I would like to dedicate this poem of mine to Mousumi ( The friend who is getting married tomorrow ….)

I remember you studying hard,

I remember you  laughing loud,

I remember you everyday,

So I have something to say.

Everyone is special,so you are

Never change  even you go very far.

Life teaches us all basics

and so it looks so classic..

Love the heart that loves you

Never get upset and never argue.

Have faith in God and He is surely there

To rain love , dream, faith & care.

Happy married life Mousumi..

“Wishing you a wonderful life together,

May there be no hill too steep,

And the ground forever rise to meet your feet. “

When I was a child, I used to consider him ,3 days younger than me..though I knew he was much older…later when I grew up & used to watch him smiling “dil se “ , I used to feel very happy for him.. I always think he is sooo genuine. he is so honest..when he talks , he looks so dignified. He is the only celebrity who never did any drama for personal benifit , a clean character & a honest husband of Madame Anjali , he maintains true professionalism , never ever mixed his personal life with other things..

 When he receives some award, I feel so proud…On the Cricket Battle ground I always feel he doesn’t present himself,. but the millions of Indian hearts those love him most…

He still looks so down to earth though he achieved so many awards–

Padma Vibhushan,Wisden Cricketer of The Year, Padma Shri, Arjuna Award, Rajiv Gandhi Khel Ratna..

On a personal note :

You grow older, you get more award,..but you are still my childhood hero (whom I kept on the 1st page cover of my notebook,on the cover of my text books,as the sticker on the wall above my study table….I have a huge collection of your photos , posters,news paper cuts in  a file , from the time when you were 17 years old & I was a child  )

We love you, we adore you. You have a golden heart..achieve more success..sky is the limit..

Happy Birthday to you ,Mr Sachin Tendulkar!..

24^th April, every year I wish you a very happy birthday, since my childhood days  I have never missed it….:-)

Charming India

Yesterday it was V-day here, so an upexpected extra holiday …

I spent whole day in front of the TV…..the idiot box..after buying this TV , I everyday think that I could have saved that amount in my savings or at least invested somewhere else.I really do not get anything to watch on nowadays..Every soap in different channels looks alike, talks alike..everybody ,every character is sooo negative that I feel OMG, how the characters are surviving without killing each other, in every soap every person at least has two extra marrital affairs, the mothers are aways sad and mother in laws the richest in the world with all designer dress & ornamnets…with that the Reality SHow..Madame Sawant is searching for a nice groom , so we all are supposed to watch her nakhra ( as if we all are mindless)..LOve is a war in other channel , where I really think censor board should do something, the girls & boys in that show made the “sweetest-thing-in-the-world-which -is -love ” so ugly that people will be scared to fall in love after watching that show…the whole concept in that show is love is nothing but sharing bed,touching,wearing small clothes,and making indecent,vulger comments with beep noise..:-) They are showcasing the youngisthan there, but whats about those youth, who are working 24*7 everyday to make some bank balance ,in this IT ?Shame on that channel. They show another reality show, where a certain lady try to look as much ugly as possible by her irritating scripted dialog  & her over-make-up..and we are supposed to understand that thats the realiy. A girl talks soo rubbish everyday in that show, but still none cut the show as a beep noise make our mind questioning after each beep :”Oh..what slang did she use?”..

In another channel , a married lady was supposed to give an “agni-parikhsha ” to prove the non-existence of the infidelity..:-)..thats how the channel are teaching modern indian women the earlier tradition…and we say we are changing..

Leaving from this topic, let me tell you my yesterday’s experinece. I watched all news channels yesterday..and everywhere the same news ( sometimes with a breaking tag, obviously not heart breaking!) ,same style of news reading..

“Now we just saw what Mr X, the candidate from South Bangalore is thinking about the change in the policy..Now lets talk about Cricket, in IPL yesterday Mr Shajrukh Khan has said…”..Mr X & I who really wanted to know more about his thought process did not get much time to know each other..:-)..the more importance was obviously how the Mr King Entertainer explained with all jhtakas about the IPL match..Its fun to watch him , just like some years back Guys loved to watch Mandira & her cricket commentry! lol..:-P

After some time the greatest reality show started..Every where the camera ,and the great degree holder journelist started..” We we are at the X locality of bangalore, and our camera man is just showing you how many people of thie IT city arrived here ..Here most of the IT companies declared a holiday today and at our studio Mr Y from X company will  tell you how IT is supporting Indian democracy by giving an extra holiday ….”..Mr Y started giving all super “gyan “..and I went to another channel..

“We are at  Z localily of south Bangalore, where this person does not believe in a system where people elects on the basis of caste, god, religion..” I got some interest because getting this kind of person is bangalore is really rare…Here people shows off always,how much they love their god..Anyways that person talked nicely , but I doubt how many votes he would get from these god lovesr, caste biased people..

I went to another channel, where a TV reporter was taking an interview of another candidate of a small town of Karnataka , and he was talking all bull**** about many irritating things..tradiotn, culture,,and how he does not drink anything other than milk, how many times he performss his daily rituals..and the TV reporter was holding the mouth speaker with  a pleasant smile..

I finally switched the TV off………The news channels are showing the greatest,funniest reality shows these days..

But Indian Government should put some restriction, I believe..

In my opnion , news papers & news channels should not be sold off like this..they are our messangers in this democracy..They cannot a support some party even in a passive way.

I hate to see any party’s advertisement by any way on the TV..Choosing someone is our right, thats completely on us, an AD  song about that party is always exaggerating & misleading ..we the educated people of India will never vote you unless we know you well, unless you build the faith in us that you also love our India  like we do..

and there lies the voice of the youth ..:-)